Tonight 14th Kislev is the wedding anniversary of the Rebbe and the Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka.
The Rebbe spoke many times about the sanctity of a Jewish marriage and the importance of shalom bayit, which refers to a harmonious relationship between husband and wife. In our morning prayers, we say that there are certain things of which one reaps the benefits in this world and the remainder is left for him in the world to come.
One of those mitzvot is bringing peace between a husband and wife. There are hundreds of letters from the Rebbe in response to questions about general or very particular problems in the area of shalom bayit.
(The Rebbe’s advice will be beneficial not only in marriage but in other relationships as well.)
An excerpt from one such letter (freely translated) reads:”It is certain that every person can approach and influence another person in this matter, when proper thought is put into it and when one searches for the appropriate method that suits this particular person… If the occupation of the above-mentioned couple permits, it is sensible to say that a trip for several weeks of vacation, spent together in a manner of a second ‘honeymoon’ would rectify the entire situation.”
In another response, the Rebbe advises: “It is understood according to the ruling of our Sages, how great is peace between a man and his wife; you must put as much effort into this as possible… it is emphasised in the teachings of Chasidut and specifically in the well-known talk of my father-in-law, that a person is created with a right eye and a left eye.
The right eye teaches that one must always look at another Jew with a good eye, to see what is best and most pleasant in him, etc. Being that we have been so commanded in our Torah, a Torah of life, certainly we have been given the capacity and the possibility to fulfil the command, and there is nothing that stands in the way of the will.”
May we imminently begin the era when there will be peace in the world, in our communities, within our families, with the revelation of Moshiach, NOW!